This weeks post is a little different to anything i have posted before. World ‘Mental Health Day’ came around this week, and I would love to share some thoughts with you. Before you read on, i just have to say that i am no way a professional when it comes to dealing with mental health, i simply want people to find comfort in my writing and take away any information they find useful to help themselves.
We each have our own way of dealing with emotions. Just like most people, I have previously found myself in a situation where, for a brief moment, i just wanted everything to be over. Of course i have felt that the easiest thing to do sometimes is just to end it all. However, at the same time, i am very lucky to know that these feelings are cursory thoughts and i have the ability to override them with logic. Unfortunately some people do not have this same ability.
Every single person you know either has or will suffer from some kind of mental issue at some time in their life. Some will be minor and easy to overcome, but some will be more major and difficult to recover from alone. Sadly in some cases these issues become so overwhelming that the sufferer feels no other option than to bring everything to an end. Those who suffer from mental health issues can receive an awful amount of negative comments like ‘attention seeker’ ‘selfish’ ‘self obsessed’. These can make their situation ever harder than it already is to deal with. Nothing about mental health is selfish. Here are some things i think you should know when it comes to dealing with both your own and others mental health-
There is no such thing as ‘normal’
Everybody has a mental health, just like everybody has a physical health. No two bodies are the same just like no two minds are. Everyone will react to different situations in different ways and some will find it more difficult and challenging than others. Some find it harder to overcome an event, causing overthinking and then escalation into bigger problems like depression or anxiety. Nobody chooses to ‘get depression’ it will always be out with the persons control.
It is hard for the person suffering to explain how they feel
Telling someone who is (for example) having a panic attack to ‘calm down’ is futile and will only aggravate the situation. Nine times out of ten the sufferer will know they are safe and are being irrational but they are unfortunately unable to control the way they feel and find it difficult to convey this. It can be frustrating for them to know that attention is drawing to them which in turn, makes it even more difficult to ‘calm down’
Mental Health is Not a Fashion Statement
Unfortunately we live in a world today where some people think it’s “cool” to have a mental illness like OCD or anxiety. Just like many think it is fashionable to have a food intolerance. I can pretty much speak for anybody who suffers from any kind of illness that they would never wish it on their worst enemy. Respect that people do actually suffer from these problems and it should never be a joking matter.
You will always be your own worst enemy
We are overthinkers. It’s a fact. You judge yourself more than anybody else judges you and worry that everybody sees all the imperfections you can see. To cut this paragraph short, quite honestly nobody cares about your flaws. Why? Because they’re all too busy focusing on their own. So stop stressing and embrace the things you love about yourself. I promise, you will be a much happier you.
Events will trigger certain thoughts and feelings, it is unavoidable
One of the most common triggers for mental illness stems from sudden life changing events. A lost loved one, bullying, job loss or illnesses which you may not recover from are just a few examples. It is natural to think the worst in these situations and sometimes emotions can spiral out of control. The most important thing to do at these times is accept that everything will be so much easier with a little help. There is no need to ever feel alone. If you don’t feel comfortable talking to friends or family, there is plenty of support workers out there. If you don’t feel comfortable talking face to face with a stranger, there is online support workers. If you don’t want to go alone, there is group sessions anybody can attend. The options are endless, just know that there is always somebody, and it is so, so important to find the help which is right for you.
Self care is not Selfish
Your health is what completes you as a person. In order to enjoy your life to the absolute limit, it is all down to how you look after and appreciate you. Looking after your mind is just as important as looking after your body. Happy mind equals happy life eh! So be selfish, do whatever you need to do to look after yourself. Even if it means missing out on a few things, YOU are your priority.
World Mental Health day is not just about praising those who deal with their issues on that one single day. It is about spreading awareness of all these silent issues the world had no idea existed until today. Every day is ‘Mental Health Day’. If you know somebody who struggles mentally, lend them a hand. Show them some support. Let them know that you will never force them to talk but are always there as and when they need you to be. If you yourself silently suffer from some kind of mental illness, don’t leave it until tomorrow, tell somebody today.
Sometime’s just knowing there is someone there is all it takes to change a life.
Thank you for reading,