I once had what most would consider a ‘normal job’. Don’t get me wrong, I learned a lot, I’m glad I was given the opportunity to gaze into the life of a ‘normal person’. The experience was eye opening. However, the biggest lesson I learned was that it just wasn’t for me. I wasn’t happy, the day to day workload overwhelmed me massively and being sat at a desk for 8 consecutive hours every single day broke me. Where this life suits the majority, it did not suit me. So I moved on. My point? If you’re not happy with who you are, change.
1. Having a dream is not an obligation
People always talk about their dreams, their goals, their intentions. They wont ever be fully satisfied or settled until they achieve these desires. More often than not, these are long term dreams, a way to finish a life, where they want to be when they are ‘older’. So fine, if you have something you’ve always wanted to do then why not go for it? But always work with what’s in front of you, be careful of long term dreams. If you’re always looking too far ahead, you’ll lose sight of the opportunities jumping out in your peripheral.
2. Everything is down to luck
You did not chose to be born, but you are considerably lucky to be here. Realising that everybody came into the world the same way will humble you, nobody has ever chosen their upbringing, intellectual ability or their aesthetics. Everything is down to luck. You cannot truly take credit for all your success nor blame others for your failures. You were lucky to make it this far, respect all the people you were lucky to have help you along the way.
Empathy is intuitive but also something you can work on intellectually. We all have the ability to understand and share the feelings of others, if you don’t then work on it. Reflect on how you would feel to be occupying the same position. Then react accordingly.
4. Don’t seek happiness
We didn’t evolve to be consistently content. Unfortunately we lost that gene along the way. Live in the moment, appreciate every second and don’t overthink. We have a tendency to define ourselves in opposition. We focus on the bad rather than the good, the things we don’t like rather than the things we do. Take pride in your appearance and abilities. In return, happiness will seek you.
5. Have gratitude
Have readiness to show appreciation and return kindness. Find the quality to be thankful and recognise affection. Know if you show gratitude to others, you will receive it in return.
6. Finally, fill an empty existence
Sometimes days can feel long and empty. We find ourselves stuck in the same routine day in and day out. Get up, go to work, go home, dinner, bed. It is so easy to fall into this trap, feel like theres no way out and accept that ‘this is life’. But that’s just your perception. Fill your empty days by undertaking tasks you enjoy. Do something that makes you feel responsible. Go to the gym, classes, find a hobby, invite a friend over, go out for dinner. Do what makes you happy, give yourself something to look forward too. Fill an empty existence and enjoy every second.